Posts Tagged ‘disappointment’


Thursday, April 1st, 2010

I’m human. I want what I want when I want it! I ponder and mull over things…..I dream and wish….and scheme and plan. But how do I handle it when God says, No?

I must admit, I’m not always pure of heart with my emotions. I get bummed! I feel disappointment and I wear it proudly like a badge of honor. I even make people around me miserable (poor people). I guess I’m normal. But I don’t want to be like that.

Winning isn’t everything! How many times have we heard or said that one? If you’re a mom, probably a million! Life is full of moments of rejection. I can remember as a teenager not being chosen to join the very special girl club called Lionettes. It really broke my heart. I took it very personally because it was based on your personality and popularity amongst the teachers in our school. Yea, how’s that for molding young ladies? It was something that has stuck with me my whole adult life. Even though….I know my value doesn’t come from such things as club memberships. It just stuck, ok? (Beth Moore might peg this as an insecurity and I’d have to agree) Darn you, satan!

My kids have faced rejections as well. It’s even harder to handle (for me) than my not being selected for Lionettes. The hurt you feel for your child is multiplied tenfold. Competition is tough. They have had to work very hard to be in everything they’ve participated in at school. Nothing has been handed to them. Some no’s have stung so deeply that I sensed that connection from my own experience in high school. I’m afraid it will hurt forever. I try to remind them that God is in control and He has a plan.

We can bank on being told no….at some point in our life. It’s how we handle it that says something about who we are in Christ. I’m much more sure of myself 27 years later. But that doesn’t mean NO feels good. I like hearing yes or being told you win much more. Today on Lysa T’s blog, she posted about the She Speaks scholarship winners. This lady is such a sweety. She clearly understands how NO feels. Her words reminded me not to be torn up if I’m not chosen for one of the four scholarships. It’s not the end of the world. God knows what He’s doing and they will go to the ones who NEED to be there the most. 🙂

I had to confess to her in the comments section. When I hear such news, I feel that first twinge of “aaah bummer”! But then, I get so dang excited for WHOEVER it is that won….that I have to go and tell them. Like they need me to have a woohoo halleluia party with them or something. I know…’s crazy. I can’t help it. I’m a celebrator! I like to rejoice with my sisters & brothers in Christ. I can’t help but think…that’s what God would want me to do. His blessings are amazing and I should acknowledge them with my fellow believers.

So, if you are facing a NO today…..I pray that your heart would be quickly reminded that God has a perfect plan and that no…..was part of it.

Solomon said, that there is no greater thing in the life of a person: “but for a man to rejoice, and to do good in his life”,(Ecclesiastes 3:12)