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31 Days — Positive Attitude (Day 23)

Tuesday, October 23rd, 2012

What's your attitude towards those who think & believe differently than you?  Mine, I admit…can be pretty judgemental.  A sign that you're growing as a child of God, when you feel the pain of someone you disagree with when they're hurting.

I had a conversation with a student this week who was struggling to understand her brother's "coming out".  While the family had always been suspicious of his preference, he had not come out and admitted to them he was gay.  So out of fear and not knowing how to face them…he posted a relationship status on Facebook for the whole world to see.  Family included.

Ever faced something so shocking it set you back a bit?  That's pretty much how this family handled it.  I spoke gentle words of reassurance to her and reminded her, God can do anything.  It's not impossible to see him change his mind.  Prayer can make a difference.

All they can do is love him and make sure he knows they do.  No matter what.

I'm convinced that God sends many of these situations to me for my own growth process (theirs too).  I need to be reminded that a haughty attitude towards someone different than me is useless.  Not only that, it's harmful to me & them.  My opportunity to reach and love in HIS NAME is diminished when I think I'm above another who chooses something I wouldn't.

My thinking?

Agree to listen.  People need counsel, good counsel.  Not angry beat them over the head counsel.

Put yourself in their shoes.  Hurting people sometimes hurt people.  Show the sympathy that they deserve.

Blanket them with God's love and tell them you care.  What can't you understand about that?  It's easy!

Remember, you're not perfect.  Thank God for the fact that HE LOVES YOU in spite of you.  Your mistakes are no less of a big deal than any other person's.

I'm always learning.  Aren't you?

Have an attitude of compassion.  You never know when you're going to be on the recieving end of that compassion.