Posts Tagged ‘reconnect’

Day 10 – Wifey Wednesday (Take Good Care)

Wednesday, February 10th, 2016


You need to hear this.  Every woman needs to hear this.  TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF!

If I’ve learned anything about myself in 49 years, it’s that I can only be as good as I let myself be.  It takes effort to be good, feel good and live good.  An unhealthy wife is NOT a happy wife.   Neither is one who’s struggling emotionally.

Women do a terrible job of managing themselves while making everyone around them successful.   In other words, we put SELF last on the to-do list.  Nothing good comes from being a martyr mom & wife.  Except really uptight kids who see their mom neglect her own needs for theirs.   Guess what we create?  Self-centered people who can’t solve their own problems or do anything “normal” for themselves.

That’s not healthy for anybody.

So, what does taking good care of your self look like?

Proper rest
Good diet
Time off
Regular doctor appointments
Happy healthy friendships

Special extras:

Hair appointments
Makeup techniques (wear it!)
Eyebrow maintenance  (Good Lordy- do this ladies!)
Adult vacation time (minus the guilt)
Mani pedi time
Women’s retreats  (gooooooooo!)

I threw that last one in because women need to reconnect with other women.  Men were never designed to meet our emotional needs.  Taking a break to fill up your tank gives you a giant boost as a woman.   Stop turning down opportunities to rejuvenate your soul because you can’t peel yourself away from pancake Saturday at home.

Let me remind you – your kids need time ALONE with their dad!!  That means, get lost!  Go do something fun for you!

This Wifey – Wednesday is really going to change how you feel, look and behave.  So, go…… nice things.  Your husband will really like the happy YOU!


Friday, February 5th, 2016


My in-laws have it figured out. They go on dates. It doesn’t have to be anything special, they just get in their car and drive off. We love to tease them about their hotdog lunches at Costco. The truth is, we feel inspired by their ability to make anything a “date”.

Of all the people on the earth our spouse is the one that is OUR PERSON. No one else should ever come before them…not our kids, family members, jobs, hobbies…nothing! So, why do we neglect one another so easily? Why do we push “us” to the back burner?

Day 5 challenge: DATE NIGHT

I know it’s Friday night. I get it, you’re tired! Most of us (those of us who’ve been married, have jobs, fulfill a million other responsibilities) are wiped out by Friday night. But, listen to me on this one.


If you’re too danged tired to do it tonight, go tomorrow night after you’ve spent all Saturday in your pj’s at home. Get dressed (like, “gussy up” get dressed) and go out just the two of you for a nice dinner. Heck, even go see a movie.

You won’t regret it.

What you will regret? Is staying home weekend after weekend never ever going on a date together. Why? Because, when your kids grow up and move out….you are going to look back on a pretty boring history together and wonder what in the heck did you do to take better care of each other. That’s why.

Dates build memories.

Dates make you feel special.

Dates give you something to look forward to.

Dates remind you why you got hitched.

Dates show your kids that something is very special about your relationship.

Dates spice up everything.

Dates make interesting stories.

Dates show the world YOU BELONG TO SOMEONE.

Dates are a healthy way of reconnecting.

Dates do NOT have to be expensive.

Dates are romantic.

Dates are adventures.

Dates build up excitement.

Dates bind us to one another.

Dates push us to make something happen.

Dates are a great investment in making it for the long haul!


So, what are you waiting for? Grab your true love and go out tonight!

Oh and a few tips:

Hold hands
Look into each others eyes
Put down your phones
Share a meal or dessert
Kiss, often
Don’t talk about kids
Get crazy