Posts Tagged ‘couples’


Friday, February 5th, 2016


My in-laws have it figured out. They go on dates. It doesn’t have to be anything special, they just get in their car and drive off. We love to tease them about their hotdog lunches at Costco. The truth is, we feel inspired by their ability to make anything a “date”.

Of all the people on the earth our spouse is the one that is OUR PERSON. No one else should ever come before them…not our kids, family members, jobs, hobbies…nothing! So, why do we neglect one another so easily? Why do we push “us” to the back burner?

Day 5 challenge: DATE NIGHT

I know it’s Friday night. I get it, you’re tired! Most of us (those of us who’ve been married, have jobs, fulfill a million other responsibilities) are wiped out by Friday night. But, listen to me on this one.


If you’re too danged tired to do it tonight, go tomorrow night after you’ve spent all Saturday in your pj’s at home. Get dressed (like, “gussy up” get dressed) and go out just the two of you for a nice dinner. Heck, even go see a movie.

You won’t regret it.

What you will regret? Is staying home weekend after weekend never ever going on a date together. Why? Because, when your kids grow up and move out….you are going to look back on a pretty boring history together and wonder what in the heck did you do to take better care of each other. That’s why.

Dates build memories.

Dates make you feel special.

Dates give you something to look forward to.

Dates remind you why you got hitched.

Dates show your kids that something is very special about your relationship.

Dates spice up everything.

Dates make interesting stories.

Dates show the world YOU BELONG TO SOMEONE.

Dates are a healthy way of reconnecting.

Dates do NOT have to be expensive.

Dates are romantic.

Dates are adventures.

Dates build up excitement.

Dates bind us to one another.

Dates push us to make something happen.

Dates are a great investment in making it for the long haul!


So, what are you waiting for? Grab your true love and go out tonight!

Oh and a few tips:

Hold hands
Look into each others eyes
Put down your phones
Share a meal or dessert
Kiss, often
Don’t talk about kids
Get crazy

Day 4 – Bucket List

Thursday, February 4th, 2016

bucket 3

Way back when my hubby and I were dating, we’d go out on adventurous dates late at night. One of our favorite things to do was climb up on top of the bank building in our small town and look at the world from way up high. It wasn’t a skyscraper, by any means….but it was one of the highest locations in our area and NO ONE else ever went up there.

It was “our thing”. Maybe a little weird, but it was our way of seeking out something to do together. Oh, and it was FREE!

We live in a new world now. Smartphones have taken us by storm. Instead of climbing up on roofs to dream together, we sit staring at our screens (not just my hubby and me – the whole world)….lost in a silly post or article that in the end, really means nothing to our relationships. Cellphones are not wicked little devils out to destroy us but the truth is that we ALLOW them to steal precious moments we can never get back. All because we’re mesmerized by what we see on our little tiny screens.

A lot of relationships are in the tanks.

What if we decided to dream together again? Every couple needs a common goal or two. I don’t think you need me to tell you that YOUR KIDS MOVE out someday, that before you know it….you’ll be alone with one another.

bucket 2

Tonight, instead of laying on the couch with one eye on the tv and the other on your cellphone screen – how about sitting down together and creating a bucket list?

Day 4 Challenge: Create a Couples Bucket List

bucket 1

The idea here isn’t to plan a lavish vacation. Unless that’s your big dream. This is an opportunity to focus on something that doesn’t involve the hum-drum droll of everyday life. What “something” would you love to do together? Where would you like to go? What would you like to see?

bucket 4

You might find out that sharing a united goal puts you on a path of making it happen. Stop sitting on your dreams!


O How I love Thee

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

I’m speaking of my hubby!  I love him!  He’s filled up my love tank today and I just can’t keep it to myself!  He was “speaking” my love language and that’s not always easy to do.  He and I are complete opposites when it comes to a love language.  I like A) acts of service and B) quality time.  He likes A) words of affirmation, B) physical touch and  C) gifts.  Figuring out these differences has changed our lives!

Thank you….Dr. Gary Chapman!

The book is a MUST READ!  I know I’ve surely bragged about it before.  The Five Love Languages should be required study before any couple ties the knot!  It’s that good!  Many marriages could be saved….if couples could just learn what it takes to make their partner feel loved.

Everyone is not the same!

Today, hubby was showering me with love and I can’t help but feel compelled to love him back!  Thanks Honey!  You’re the best!

—He mowed our very yucky yard!  Pollen is at an all time high.  But he didn’t let that stop him.  He even weedeated!  Wow!  It looks so nice now!

—He helped me wash the BIG dog, Maggie!  She was a dusty dirty mess.  He stood alongside me and scrubbed her clean.  I know she is thankful too.  Smelling good gets you lots of extra lovin!   🙂

—He changed a lightbulb in our main bathroom.  This is huge!  You actually have to climb up high and unscrew a weird light fixture to get to the bulb.  It was tedious!  But he knows  we need to see (3 chicks share that busy bathroom!)

—He vacuumed the laundry room!  I’m so glad!  The fuzz, dust and hair gunk on the floor makes me anxious.  It accumulates so fast!  Bleh!  Grosses me out!

—For the last few days….he’s sat with me and just let me share what’s going on in my life.  Which ain’t always purty!  I’m quite the drama queen and sometimes I think “woe is me”.  He listened and didn’t try to tell me what to do or to get over it!  Man, I needed that!

—He also remembered to take the garbage cans to the road for pick-up today!  I appreciate that since he’s really busy with work and doesn’t always have the time to do this stuff.  Our cans were full too (pick-up is once a week).

I’m happy that he loves me in my favorite languages.  It really does make a difference!  Thank you babe!  You’re the best!

I love you!

If you’re interested in your own love language….go to this site and click on the quiz! You just might be surprised! 🙂