Posts Tagged ‘fathers’

Missing a Dad

Sunday, June 21st, 2015

As I scroll through social media today, I’m reminded of all those who (like me) wish they had a special father to post about. If I’m not careful, jealousy could creep in and take over where my heart aches for the love of a daddy that I never knew. I know, I’m not alone.

The world is too full of fatherless children.

The love of a father is one of the greatest blessings and no matter how hard you try, a mother cannot give what a father can. I don’t say any of that to dispute the effort made by woman after woman who finds herself raising her children without the man who fathered them. To you women who’ve done it and are doing it, God bless you and encourage you to hang on and keep doing what you do best. Your love will not go unnoticed.

Why, is the question I’ve asked myself so many times. Why doesn’t my father want to know or love me? Or why didn’t he try harder to be in my life? And for those of you who did and do know your father, who wonder why he never stepped up to the plate to love and train you. I don’t know. I can’t understand that kind of abandonment. Mostly because of the man who fathers my children. His devotion is God’s gift to me and to them. For the last 26 years, I’ve had a front row seat into what that relationship is supposed to look like.

I’m forever grateful and blown away that after all the lifetime of wishing and wondering what it was like to be loved with such a fire and passion — God would send me the best man to father my children.

I’m thankful that my children will never know anything but the never-ending love of a great dad. They don’t have to wonder if he cares, they don’t have to imagine having a fun day with him, they don’t question his intentions towards them and they know they can ask anything of him and he will give.

So, to all my friends who can’t or don’t post today a picture of a treasured father…. I get you. I understand and so does God.

For you and others like us, God never intended for us to go unloved by the men who helped create us. His design for our lives started with a loving father in mind. But, man. Man in his sinful and pathetic flesh, some weaker than strong, others pushed out for reasons they had no control over and many just ignorant and neglectful….made the choice to let us go and never know the love of his adoring children.

We can trust, God doesn’t look the other way on any sin. No matter who the party is, mother/father/child/friend. He holds each of us accountable for the neglect we inflict on others. In scripture, God teaches us that the role of a man is to lead his family and to lay down his life for them. For those of you who have no idea what that looks like, I’m sorry.

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My prayer for you (and me) is that whether your dad was a cruddy thoughtless dad or an in & out of your life kind of man or even a complete stranger to you, that you would know God’s love for you is no match. His love is an everlasting kind. His love is without boundaries. His love is perfect. His love is mighty. And I pray, that you know it. That your earthly father missed out on a great you.

Be encouraged today and think on that when the bajillion smiling photos of daddies and their brood flood your feed.

You are loved by the BEST DADDY ever. God.

Dad Rules

Thursday, September 8th, 2011

Maybe you’ve bumped into this post out in the blog world already. If you haven’t, you must read it! I promise…’ll love it! It’s all about dad’s and the rules for fathering a daughter. Be prepared to giggle, tear up and remember your own daddy relationship.

For some (like myself) that relationship wasn’t as special as it should have been. I remember my dad being there up until the death of my little brother. After that, it was just the two of us. My mom did her best, but being a single mom isn’t the ideal situation. I missed out on so many things that little girls shouldn’t have to. Sadly, I was also a victim of other people’s sins.

I don’t own the shame that comes from that abuse. However, I do wear the scars in my heart from the innocence that was stolen. It happens. More often than you’d think. Children, especially misplaced children are easy targets for the sick in our world. Daddies have the power to protect the girls they father.

Mine could not do that.

For my own beautiful girls, God had special plans. He custom created the best daddy in the world. One who would be madly in love with them. Nothing they could ever do or say could stop him from that. He has always teased about snippin’ a notch in their ears at the hospital to keep anyone from trying the old switcharoo. Instead, he chose to stick right with them the entire time. That, he did. (Our son, too) None of our children were ever out of his sight.

Over the years (in 8 days–married 22 years) I’ve felt a sort of redemption for my own childhood. Mine was full of turmoil and pain. I grew up thinking love was conditional and costly. All things that are foreign to my kids. While they can surely point out parenting errors, I know each of them cherish their dad & I. They have known love, protection and trust everyday of their lives. God surely makes beauty from ashes. I’m living proof.

Today, I see my past as a gravel road to a victorious life. One that could only be orchestrated by God. He knew what I needed. While I didn’t experience the warm fuzzy love of a daddy…..I’ve stood witness to that in my own children’s lives. I see now, what a real dad is. A blessing to me and to them.

I can’t leave without sharing this link. It’s just another daddy making it his goal to rock his little girl’s world (as long as he can get away with it). Hehe! If you have a daddy in your life that has blessed you and loved you with his whole heart–Don’t forget to let him know what he means to you.

Ok, one more link, just in case you haven’t had enough “love those daddy” tears.

Thank you for the dad you’ve given me (in my husband). While he can never change my past…he’s certainly blessed my future.