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Why I Won’t Read MckMama Anymore

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

I've been blogging since 2008 and one of the first blogs I frequented was MckMama's.  She was so inviting and interesting.  Her photography was dazzling and her kids, beautiful.  I loved clicking over and reading her cute posts about her Many Small Children and her handsome MckDaddy.  She seemed to have similar values as me and her willingness to talk about her faith just made me feel even more comfortable reading her blog.  She also spoke openly about what she struggled with (her marriage) and I thought by doing that she was being a genuine person who faced issues….you know, just like everybody else.

Then, her baby Stellan became the focus.  He was diagnosed with a congenital heart defect SVT during pregnancy.  So, I followed along her journey (which was very emotional and scary) and prayed for her and baby Stellan.  It was a frightening experience and as a reader, I could only imagine what she and her family were going through.  It was all over the blogosphere and this lady had the followers/readers tuning in to share in their fight for a healthy baby.  I continued reading throughout the birth and touch-n-go health issues he battled.

Everything seemed legit.

Little by little, I noticed as I read her blog…..tragic things were always happening to them.  Not just the sick baby (and please know, I'm a compassionate person), there were financial problems, foreclosure of a home, job issues (MckDaddy's), vehicle problems, marital fusses, counseling & reconciling, illness (her & Stellan), another baby (surprise), strange homeschooling posts, Compassion trips, Focus on The Family interview, political posts,  an entire summer of traveling the USA in a camper/motorhome, trips for photoshoots, more money problems, moving to a new house (and honestly, the moves didn't look shabby), purchasing of farm animals for their HEALTHY eating habits, bakoodles of pets & births of more, furniture shopping, parties at fancy antique furniture places, car wrecks, more hospitalizations…

The list goes on and on…

I totally lost interest and I'll tell you why….it sounded bonkers!  Every bit of her life sounded crazy!  Her posts were filled with beautiful pictures of her kids, always impeccably dressed in the cutest style of clothes.  As a mom, I've raised 3 babies and money was  T I G H T in order for me to stay home.  I found myself jealous of her ability to "be broke" and yet live such a lavish (the pictures certainly made it look as if, anyway) lifestyle.  She was in the upper crust of blogger celebs, yet she had piles of problems.  I couldn't keep up.

So, I bailed.  Call me unfaithful.  It's ok.  I just couldn't keep up with all the issues and the blessings too.  It just didn't seem to match up.

[Let me insert here:  I DO NOT KNOW Jennifer personally.  So my opinion is strictly based on what I've read over the years on her blog]

Every once in a while I'd hop over to see the latest happenings.  It still appeared that havoc and chaos were the name of the game and blessings & curses continued to rain down on the MckFamily.  Currently, the issues are serious marriage problems.  The posts are vague and often misleading (because, who knows THE TRUTH about what's going on?) and filled with arguing commenters posting on every little word she writes.  I can't even begin to describe how confusing and embarrassing all of it is.  It's terrible!  For her, her husband & her many small children.

I don't know what is really happening and I'm not sure if it's any of our business.  I know she makes money with her blog and she's been the target of nay-sayyers on the internet.  I just can't understand her thinking on tantilizing her readers with just enough information to make them feel awful for her and her many small children (that is how she likes to refer to them).  Why is she sharing such sad & personal stuff?  Why is she not protecting her relationship with her husband or possible ex-husband?  WHAT IS HER MOTIVE?  If it's for encouragement and support, then be honest with your readers.  Stop playing games and posting little inuendo's of your problems!

And for goodness sake, BE COMPLETELY HONEST with yourself.

I'm moving on.  I can't read the MckMama drama anymore.  I feel dupped because something just isn't right.  If I were experiencing the issues that she keeps posting…..I would not be airing it out for throngs of people to fuss, argue & criticize on Facebook and my blog.

So, I'll end with this….  Am I misunderstanding all of it?  Or is she strategically doing every bit of this for MONEY?  Either way, MckMama….you need to come clean!

 

People Are Petting Me

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

I have the sweetest girl.  She speaks with the GIFTS love language.  She loves to go all out and bless the people she loves.  She thinks of each person and customizes her love to their personality.  {She'll make a great Mama someday} 

So I'm wondering if I should be concerned….

Is this how she sees me?  πŸ™‚  I know I've been a little aggressive as a mom (somebody's gotta be the heavy) but do you think she picked this vest for the "fashion" value or the WILD ANIMAL MOTHER thinking?

Either way, I don't care!  I love it!  She has great taste and knows just how to bless her mama!  The only problem?  Everyone keeps petting me like a kitty!

 

Meowwww!

 

Thank you Ally!  You're the sweetest little Valentine a mother could wish for.  I love your fun style and giving heart.

 

 Don't you see that children are God's best gift? 

      the fruit of the womb his generous legacy? 

   Like a warrior's fistful of arrows 

      are the children of a vigorous youth. 

   Oh, how blessed are you parents, 

      with your quivers full of children! 

   Your enemies don't stand a chance against you; 

      you'll sweep them right off your doorstep.  

Psalm 127:3-5 (The Message)

Snow But No

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

I woke up as usual this morning, tired and achy.  That's normal for a gal with Fibromyalgia.  The entire winter season has pretty much been a bust, so when I saw the snow covered gound outside….I was hopeful for a school delay. 

Not a chance, dude!

Oh well, I'm not complaining.  No make-up days means WE GET OUT OF SCHOOL ON TIME for the first time in a long time.  Winning!

 

Since it's Valentine's Day it's only appropriate to tell the world who I love…

My hubby.  He is and always will be my true love.  I appreciate all that he does for me and for our kids.  He works hard and still has time to do the many strange & time consuming requests we have for him.  Thank you babe, for working until after 10pm last night working on my car.  Hopefully everything works out and you finish it tonight.  πŸ˜‰

My son.  He has the greatest outlook on life.  He teaches me everyday to look at people & situations with a positive attitude.  He knows how to find joy in every situation.  He's lovable & loving!  He's also been a lifesaver this last year in all our running around needs.  Thanks son!

My middle daughter.  She knows how to make me feel special.  She loves to do sweet things for other's and will work tirelessly to make someone feel her love.  I love her hugs and I never get tired of hearing her ask me, "Did you miss me, Mom..when I was gone?". 

My baby girl.  She is a tornado of love.  She's content to be with me (even when her peers are out living it up) and she's shown some great maturity in the last few months regarding boundaries in her life.  I admire her and I love that God let me be a part of molding her values.  She's so easy to love.

My family, friends, and co-workers too.  I feel blessed to have the wonderful people around me in my life.  I know I can count on each of them if I ever need them.  My prayer is that I'm a blessing to them as well. 

Who do you love?

"Since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other.”

~ 1 John 4:11
 
 

 

 

No Car But Awesome Boots

Monday, February 13th, 2012

For those of you who like to look at the glass 1/2 full.  My Monday tried to put me to the test.  But I won't let it!  πŸ˜‰

 

I woke up to a dead car. Not a great way to begin a Monday, wouldn't you agree? So hubby pulled Ally's car around for me to drive since she was too "sick" to attend her early 7:00am class. Hrmph! I realize as I'm walking up to it….it's very quiet and confirm its not running when I hop onto the freezing seat. Not cool, okay too cool! It won't crank! Not for all the tea in China. If you're counting that's 2 cars not working this morning. Except I haven't mentioned that my son took his car to the shop last night to be worked on. 5 people sharing 1 car today!

AWESOME!

Good news….

I'm wearing new boots and I look good y'all!

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I hope you're having a great Monday! I'm sure glad God loves you & me aren't you?

What? WordPress Does THAT?

Thursday, February 9th, 2012

My heart belongs to Jesus!  No qualms about that, I promise!  But the rest of me is now in looooove with my WordPress dashboard!  For 4 years (I really could yell this out) I have whined and cried over the fact that I KNOW MY WORDPRESS BLOG DOES MORE THAN THE BASICS!!

After a new plugin update, hubby installed the Cadillac Escalade of goodies to make my blogging more fun!  I've literally driven everyone crazy over switching my fonts and making little doo-dads here and there.  I knew there was a way…

4 years later, here I am y'all.  Playing with a whole new blog!

Just look out, there's no telling what you're going to see when you click into my little kingdom.  I'm going to need some time to figure everything out.  So bear with me, ok?

Everyday I learn something new.  That's good, very good!  Keeps the Alzheimer's away.  At least I'm hoping it does!

PS–THANK YOU Honey!  And WordPress, I love you too!

Ministry Fail

Thursday, February 9th, 2012

I’ve been talking with a friend who’s smack dab in the middle of a church problem. It brings up so many painful memories of what my own family experienced a few years back. I feel the punch in my gut with every little issue she shares. I can’t help but feel that same hopeless confused emotion….all over again.

I wish I had an explanation for why these things happen. But, I don’t. People are human and they act like it. Especially, Christians. While one would think they behave with some form of restraint, that’s not always the case. The mind-boggling reasons for asking a pastor to leave catch us by surprise or shock us.

But does it shock God?

I don’t believe it does. He sees right past our facade of pretend. He knows the depth of our hearts and He sees the dirty black we hide there. It’s never a surprise when we reveal something painful or ugly….He’s aware even if we think we have it tucked securely away. He sees. He is El Roi (the God who sees, Genesis 16:6). There is no place God can’t see. There is no situation He cannot discern.

Sadly, the wounded left in the wake of such pain aren’t always okay. It changes everything. It alters how you feel about yourself and certainly the way other’s look at you. You become a sort of walking wounded. Almost like you have a Scarlet letter stamped on your life. It robs you of your peace, satan beats you up for every weakness and when no one supports you or stands behind you….you begin to believe all the hoopla that is said about you.

Even though…it’s not true or exaggerated!

What is our role in supporting pastors? How can you and I do what God expects of us when those around us are demanding HE GO? I’ve thought about this many times and I know without a shadow of a doubt, I WILL NOT BE A PART OF PASTOR/MINISTRY ABUSE! EVER! If I don’t like someone, it isn’t my job to run them off. If he is out of sorts with his theology or misleading his flock that is something to be addressed (in a Christlike manner). If I just don’t enjoy his sermons or think his wife does enough for the church….too bad! That’s God’s job to handle, not mine!

Petty meanness and witch hunting for problems is out and out wrong. Any Christian participating in that will face God and have to answer for it. Scripture is clear about loving one another and supporting those in leadership. Justifying your actions with bogus complaints will not cut it when faced with a Holy God. He will be our final judge.

I’ll close this sad post down with names. These are names of people I KNOW PERSONALLY who have suffered at the hands of hurtful members of the flock. Some are young, some are old…all are forever changed by what someone did to them in the name of Jesus Christ.

Susan Ben Wes Danny Bert Marilyn Randy Dustin Tanner Cody Cheryl …

I could continue with the list but I won’t. You get the picture. Pray for them and the ones facing judgement everyday by the ones they are loving and serving. You never know when it might be you.