Man, I’m a Mess

May 3rd, 2015

I’m a dreamer. I like to imagine life in the best of circumstances (even when trouble comes). Difficulties, failures, accidents, mistakes and tragedies all beckon for attention, but good stuff happens too. Joys, victories, celebrations and achievements wash over me like a flood of goodness when I least expect it. What makes me happy may not make you happy. What satisfies your soul may never satisfy mine but for each of us, we hold the same basic need – to know we are loved & valued.

For me, God provides just that. He also chooses to use the people in my life to validate me and blanket me with the love I need.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes during my life; I’ve fallen short, given up too soon, looked the other way when I should’ve confronted straight on, sucked up when I should’ve walked away, hurt when I should’ve loved, spoken out of anger, misled when I should’ve been totally honest, twisted the situation to fit my need, lashed out when I should’ve SHUT THE HECK UP, held on to unforgiveness when I should’ve given grace, made misery where peace was needed most, hated when I should’ve loved and believed I was right when I was very wrong.

And, oh there’s more. I’ve been a complete boob during my life. I’ve been a full-on sinner and sadly will continue to be because I live in a sin-riddled body and in a sin-filled world. But, I am forgiven and loved by a Holy and blameless God. I have a hope and a promise that no matter what….God will continue love me.

Man, I’m a mess.

Believing in Christ, gives me hope. Trusting Him with my heart allows me the freedom to live my life with the understanding that He knows my faults and still HE LOVES ME anyway!

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He loves you too, in spite of your faults. Being a Christian isn’t about having your act together or being perfect. If anything, it’s the total opposite. It’s recognizing that because you’re not perfect, God loved you enough to give His only son to redeem you.

The rest is up to you (me).

We can either stay a mess or learn to bless.

Remember that this week when someone you love hurts you. Or the line is too long at the store and you want to be rude. Or your car has 3 flat tires. Or you lose your cool. Or someone directly sins against you. Or you fall flat on your face in sin.

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Lord,
I’m a mess and YOU love me anyway. Help me to bless others, help me to love them even when they are unlovable. And help them to love me when I’m the one who needs it most.
Amen

On My Way, Really

April 30th, 2015

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I wish it were that easy. Oh, who am I kidding, it is that easy! Unless you’re stuck sitting in a hotel waiting for your hubby to get ANOTHER TIRE repaired on the vehicle that keeps on giving (flat tire after flat tire).

I know. It’s like I’m making this stuff up.

We didn’t leave Texas until 2:30pm yesterday to start with and the drive back to Indy is a looooong one. Since we’re still young enough to be foolish and drive all night, we felt confident in our decision to drive until we felt like we couldn’t any more.

Or, until that dinging little tire gauge light popped back up on the dashboard.

If you are wondering….

Two Saturday’s ago, we had 2 big fat flat tires out in the boondocks and had to call a tow truck to come get the car and a friend (THANK YOU NORMA) to come get us.

The tire store “repaired” both tires and we picked it up on Monday. By the next Saturday (there’s something about Saturday evenings) we were going to town for dinner and one of the previously repaired tires is leaking. Leaking big time. We make it to a Walmart where the tire guys tell us that the other tire store did not repair them correctly but that they would.

Yea, we believed them. And paid them. This is two repairs now.

Not 2 days later, one of the tires was flat – again. We are now on the 3rd day of tire woes. Are you still here? I hold no hostages, you’re free to leave. I totally understand.

This time I PUT MY MEAN WIFE FOOT DOWN! No more patching these bleeping tires! Either they get replaced so we can drive a thousand hard miles back to Indy or I’m renting a different car to drive.

I take it to another (this is the 3rd tire place) and here the kind gentlemen suggest I replace both tires and they do it for a sweet $350. I should mention, this car is not my hubby’s normal vehicle. It’s another company car and it just so happens the lease is up T O D A Y !!!!

Except, we are broken down in Marian, Illinois with yet another flat tire. This time on the front passenger side.

See? I told you….it’s like I’m making this stuff up.

Good news, we are only about 4-5 hours away from home. Soon….home sweet home.

Happy Friday eve, wherever you are. Side of the road, cuddled on your couch, hard at work….wherever. Friday’s coming.

Ode to the Shirtless

April 29th, 2015

I can’t even believe I’m admitting this…. Me, the fashion serious. I’ve been in Texas for nearly 3 weeks and I’ve had limited shirts to wear.

As in, 2 white shirts….1 gray slouchy blouse (which I bought on the trip down), a black tunic top and a variety of work-out tee’s that only NONE of which fit!

What?

I don’t know how I even got here. Who am I? I packed a suitcase full of clothes and even had a pile of hanging clothes. Still, every time I’ve gone to get dressed for the day….not a single cute shirt to wear.

I packed a few dresses (it’s been weirdly cold here), a couple pairs of jeans, shorts….and 2 bras. It’s like I wasn’t even there when the suitcases were packed.

Good news, though. I’m heading home TODAY!

First on my agenda?

Put on a cute shirt and act like none of the past 2-3 weeks ever happened.

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Happy Tuesday, friends.

How NOT to Raise a Looter

April 28th, 2015

Unless you’ve been under a rock, you’ve more than likely caught a glimpse of this “Mom” taking care of business.

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She is his mom, right? Who really knows the truth? The media does such a great job of misleading, bating hate and twisting stories to fit their SELL SELL SELL agenda. For me, I’m going to hold back on claiming this lady as his mother. For all we REALLY know, she could just be some ticked off lady whose had enough and this kid was in her line of fire.

You have noticed there are quite a few folks down there in Baltimore making their voices known. How does a mom happen upon her own kid in that chaos? Possible? Yes, but still…. Should we jump to conclusions? I don’t know. I can’t, just not sure.

However, I can tell you our society needs parents who give a rip about what their kids are doing in the real world. Besides it being a reflection on them (don’t give me that garbage that your kids are not a peek at who you are) WRONGO BONGO! We are all an extension of the ones who did or didn’t invest in us! More reason to be the best danged parent you can be, huh?

I don’t believe anyone who brings a child into the world starts out with the intentions of raising up a crazy, out-of-control, rioting looter. I mean, really? Who does that? Barbarians? Perhaps.

But what happens? Where do these destructive, hate-filled, outrageous people come from? Where are their mothers? Their fathers? Who taught them to do such a thing? What in the world ever convinced them that behaving like criminals was a way of seeking true justice?

It’s not civilized behavior.

I’ve been really mad before and I know how anger can escalate to something not pretty. I’ve never crossed the line into criminal behavior. Why? Because, I knew better. So, why is it that our society is so rampant with this crazy reaction whenever something goes wrong or a mistake is made?

I’m convinced that it’s a direct reflection of the lifestyles of the family.

Live like hell. Live. Like. Hell.

The old cliche, treat others like you would have them treat you…seems to be a thing of the past. Almost. We now live in a world that finds abuse, unkindness and illegal criminality normal. It feels like the thinking is do it to them before they do it to you. Only, not all of us want to smash your car windows to steal your ipad out of your car. Or rob someone’s grandma as she leaves the Piggly Wiggly with her oatmeal and buttermilk.

It’s a sad world. But this is the world we live in, a violent and hateful world.

So, how do you keep your kids from running wild and turning into a news fodder picture?

YOU LOVE THEM.

You love them enough to do the hard stuff like; DISCIPLINE THEM, HUG THEM, SPEND TIME WITH THEM, TEACH THEM THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN RIGHT AND WRONG, HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE, GIVE THEM CHORES, SPEAK KINDNESS TO THEM, COVER THEM WITH PRAYER, EXPECT HONESTY FROM THEM, BE HONEST WITH THEM YOURSELF, LIVE A LIFE OF INTEGRITY IN FRONT OF THEM, REFUSE TO LET THEM RUN WILD, ENFORCE FAMILY AND SOCIETY RULES, TEACH THEM RESPONSIBILITIES, SHOW THEM MERCY, COMMUNICATE WITH THEM, PLACE BOUNDARIES ON THEIR FREEDOMS, MAKE THEM A PRIORITY….EVERY SINGLE DAY! AND, BE A REAL FREAKIN’ PARENT TO THEM!

The world has enough of pathetic human-ing.

I don’t even know where to go with what is now becoming popular among the American society. Riots, looting, fighting, stealing from innocent businesses, assaulting others, destroying property/police vehicles. I can’t wrap my brain around any of it. This is NOT sticking up for what is right, on any level. Ever. It’s criminal, it’s evil and it’s coming to your town soon. Why?

Don’t let the media tell you injustice needs a screaming violent voice. That’s not the way to handle anything. The picture, up top….that could be his mom. But, why would a mom need to beat up her kid? If she was doing her part in his life to begin with? Maybe that answers why he’s down there doing what he’s doing.

Love your kids. Our world needs it.

Birdbrain

April 27th, 2015

I’m not a bird expert, I just love watching them do their thing.

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Hummingbirds might be my favorite. They never act afraid of me when I’m standing right beside their favorite hangout.

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I could watch them all day. Some days, I do just that.

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It’s probably a good thing I’m leaving Texas this week because I’ve fallen in love with a whole gaggle (I have no idea what you call a large number of Hummingbirds) of birds.

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I’d build them a giant feeding castle. So they could eat and eat while I snap their pictures on my porch.

See, I might be a little birdbrained.

Need a DIY hummingbird feeder recipe?

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Fashion Friday – That’ll Cost Ya

April 24th, 2015

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Lest you believe that this week’s fashion post is how I blow my hubby’s money, let me put that to rest right now.

I am cheap! As in, cheap cheap…beep beep cheap!

Now, do not confuse that with wishin’! I’m always wishin’! I wish for this and I wish for that…but the honest truth is I WANT THE GOOD STUFF but I want it for a bargain!

My biggest indulgences will always be on Frye boots and Dooney bags. I will not give those up! Ever. Unless of course, we need food and electricity. I mean, priorities….right? I know when to fold em’ and when to hold em’. Okay? I’m not a total animal!

Last week I spent the day shopping with a friend and while it was stressful coming back home, the day was glorious. I had a front row seat into the world of big girl shopping and I LIKED IT! I liked it, a lot.

Now that I’m back to (my) reality, I thought I’d share a few special items that are out there for the gal who wants to spend a little a lot to look her best. I’m talking fashion’s latest and greatest.

First up, SHOES! I managed to find a corner to stand in while the women of Dallas Nordstrom’s had the shoe dudes hopping grabbing their favorite designer shoes. Sure, I felt a little jelly. Gosh, who wouldn’t? Did you know, some people spend more money on a pair of shoes than most do on a month’s worth of groceries? A PAIR OF SHOES – A MONTH OF GROCERIES!

Have you heard of Attilio Giusti Leombruni? Or A G L’s as the savvy of the savviest called them. I hadn’t, mostly because I do not wear flats very often. They hurt and make me feel dumpy. The word is that these shoes are the MOST INCREDIBLY COMFORTABLE SHOE made right now. If I had an extra $300+ or so to throw around, I might find out. Since I do not….you’ll have to get your own or whatever you do to get the answers you’re looking for.

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Cute, right? But over $300 for flats? I don’t know, y’all. I’m still not convinced. If AGL would like to win me over, they’re welcome to send me a pair as a “research” project. 😉

I suppose I should just zip it on the price of AGL’s when Valentino is getting away with charging $745 dollhairs for this seriously precious pink beauty. Huh?

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Wow, that’s cute! But, $745? Really!? Errr, I don’t know guys!

Well, if you’re like me and would rather wear a sandal….here’s the other option by Valentino. They’re a little more at $1045. Yea, you read that right. One thousand and forty-five American dollars. Get ya some, y’all.

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Sham wam lama ding dong!! They’re cute, but they are also more than my home mortgage. Which is a dead give away that I am shopping out of my league.

I’ve talked up buying expensive jeans on here and I’ve never mentioned any above $150 because….seriously? They would have to do MAGICAL rearranging of my old lady body for me to even consider. I literally have an exact replica of these jeans (which I get a ton of compliments on every time I wear them) except mine were on sale for $39.99 at Marshall’s and they are Nine West brand.

Have you heard of Current/Elliott jeans? These are $228 at Nordstrom’s.

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No joke. These are clearly for the girl who zings her money left & right and still eats a fabulous dinner out that night. In other words, she ain’t fretting over a dollar or two-hundred and twenty eight of them. In case you were wondering, this isn’t the highest priced jean either. You can go much higher.

Looking for a casual crepe top to go with your Rockstud sandals and Current/Elliott jeans? This one is perfect. Only, it’s $265 and you’ll never want to eat at Fazolli’s lest you drop spaghetti sauce on it and ruin it forevs!

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I like it. Chic & comfy, just out of my “I don’t want to go to work” budget.

How about a Bird & Branch Silk dress? This one is a steal for $395 if you’re skinny enough and your wallet’s fat.

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What about a Basket Weave Skirt dress? If you’re going for a washed up on the beach look this dress is only $3250. Obviously, it costs more because of the name or could it be they’re charging for each strand?

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I love this silk dress by Fabiana and it’s only $1155. Should I splurge? Naaah! I’m rather good at finding the cheaper version of everything! It’s my secret talent.

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While I was out last week, I stopped into an Alexander McQueen store because ya know, why not? I was drawn like a magnet to a hot pink purse from the Heroine line. I cannot find it anywhere online, go figure. But, it was a whopping $2950 so I quickly set it back down and backed away.

My hand may have held it long enough that it got into my bloodstream. Hence the name. Here’s a blingy version that’s a few bucks less at $1497.

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And yes, it is tiny.

Need something a little larger? How about the Stella McCartney metallic tote? It’s $1420 and has plenty of room. However, you cannot sleep in it for a week which would be the equivalent of about a 7 day stay in a hotel at the beach.

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When it comes to sunglasses, the bigger the better is what I live by. However, they also have to be cheap enough for me to destroy. You can count on my throwing them in my purse, dropping them on gravel and losing them. So, dropping 3 bills on a pair of eye-ball protectors will never happen. Unless my hubby strikes it really rich and then I probably still wouldn’t do it.

These Jimmy Choo’s are adorable. Really. Big, flashy and Italian. $355

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I know not everyone bothers with a watch anymore but if you do and you’ve got a few bucks to blow, how about this Swiss beauty?

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This is a steal too at $899. It’s regularly priced at $1800. You’re welcome.

Now that we’ve traipsed all through the racks of the rich & famous (trust me, I held back on what I posted) let’s be real. Would you spend that kind of money on clothes, shoes, bags and jewels?

Even if you had it?

If you’re like me, you do your best to find great deals and stay up to date with every item you buy. There’s not a single thing wrong with that either. The world is full of over-priced stuff and that includes what we wear. Don’t fall into the trap of name-brand rules, if you like it and it’s affordable for your budget….get it! Lookin’ good does NOT have to cost ya!

Happy Friday friends!