The day I Turned to Ashes

August 17th, 2015

It’s Monday, my car is still janked up (and I drove it to school this morning), the air is NOT WORKING in my classroom and I think I might just die from over-heating. It’s so hot my Tervis cup has sweated off 16 oz. of condensation.

MY hormones cannot keep up – so imagine how pleasant I’m feeling.

No one can prepare for this stage of life. It just happens and you have to try your best to live through it. I, being a woman of deep dramatic favor…have taken on a sort of Lordship over my physical & emotional well-being. In other words, I am going to buy my own fan and carry it with me everywhere I go. And…

NO, I’M NOT EMBARRASSED! Because, I want to live. It’s called survival, people!

Whoever said, “What doesn’t kill me will only make me stronger” never felt the discomforts of getting old in a female body. This might be how I go out, y’all.

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Happy Monday!!

I’d Rather Be …. For Real Shopping

August 13th, 2015

I have reached the point of no turning back. I have to replace my car. Well, my hubby’s car that’s now my car – car. The old gal has to go!

It’s a bummer.

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I love the car. It’s beautiful, it’s F A S T! It’s also got an issue or two that just aren’t worth fixing at this point. Good ole Dave Ramsey would shake his finger and remind me that the cheapest car you can own is the one you’re already driving.

Ahem! Thanks, Dave.

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Trust me, I don’t want to take on a big car payment. Honestly, I’d rather do a lot of other things with my money right now.

Like, go to NYC and see the sights! Help kids through college!

Or, take a beach vacay and work on my tan! Pay down our bills!

And if I’m really being real……paint the inside of my house and organize all the rooms I hate.
Do repairs on our house, buy shoes, go out for dinner and stack up bucks in our savings!!

Why does it have to be so difficult? And expensive? If you haven’t car shopped in a while, let me fill you in. It’s highway robbery!

It’s not like I want a Ferrari! Or even a NEW CAR! I just need something NEW TO ME that’s affordable. I’ve beat the streets, the internet and even the local ads for a decent vehicle. All this shopping does is drag me down.

Truthfully, I’m over it. Only, I can’t totally get over it because I have to pick something out and start handing over my danged money. Like now. Because my car is d y i n g a slow/fast/scary death.

Where can I get my hands on a cool $55,000??

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Time Wasters

August 11th, 2015

You know what I hate? Time wasters.

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You’d think since I don’t have to be anywhere at any given moment (unless I am subbing that day) that I’d love wasting time. I don’t. I loathe it. I like to get going and get stuff accomplished before the day gets away. Not to be confused with hopping up at the crack of dawn. I don’t like early mornings. 8 am-ish is my prime time, it’s when I can focus on the things that need my attention….AHEM! COFFEE!

What I’m trying to say is that my time is important to me. If you are wasting it for me, I get frustrated. I get all out of whack. If you are wasting my time – clearly, you are wasting YOUR OWN TIME!

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Procrastination is the worst kind of time wasting.

I’ve done my own fair share of procrastinating. It’s a shame. Time is so fleeting, yet…I have dawdled away hours even days that I wish I could get back. Time doesn’t wait around for me to get motivated. That’s why I cherish my mornings to get my mojo rolling.

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I’m convinced that every person can manage their time with a little bit of discipline and determination. How?

1 – Get organized.
Clean up after yourself by putting things away. Organize important items with shelving & tubs/baskets. Throw out or donate clutter. Only keep things that you absolutely need. Too much stuff or clutter is stifling and slows down progress. No matter what task you are trying to tackle.

2 – Stick to a schedule.
Go to bed and get up at a decent hour. Every day. Staying up too late automatically puts a slower morning into place for the next day. Placing a boundary on wasted time at night helps the early morning NOT feel so horrible. Plus, sleep has wonderful health benefits. Getting at least 8 hours sharpens the brain, recharges the body and boosts energy. Sleep also protects us from sickness.

3 – Make lists.
Not just write down your to do’s but stick to them. Check off the items that you’ve accomplished and move on to the next. Lists are a great organization tool. They show us exactly what our goals are and what we need to get done in a day. Crossing off to do’s feels great. Try it.

4 – Plan.
Making a plan is a lot like writing a list. A plan gives you a map. The list gives you direct orders. Together they pave the way to a successful location. Set yourself up with both and you will have plenty of time to do things you want to do. Like, loafing.

5 – Focus.
If you don’t stay focused on the important things to do, you will not get them done. Ever. Successful people do not live their lives willy-nilly. They are intentional, focused on the goal. If it’s a job, do it. If it’s a project, do it. Don’t drag stuff out. More than likely, nothing will ever get completed. Half-done jobs or projects are a sure sign that time wasting is your downfall. F O C U S !

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6 – AVOID.
The greatest gift a procrastinator can give him or herself is AVOIDING what distracts you. If it’s social media, stay away. Allow yourself limited time on the internet each day (here’s where discipline comes in again), don’t get sucked into sites that are meaningless mindless time wasters. Avoid the bad habits that set you up for hours of lost time; sleeping too late, not being organized, forgetting important items/meetings/dates/bills, playing on your phone, tv and whatever it is that steals your time.

Remember, if you are wasting your time…..more than likely, you are wasting someone elses as well. Stealing time from others is wrong but stealing time from yourself is just wasteful.

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When Your Kids Hurt You

August 10th, 2015

No one can jack up your mom mojo quicker than a full-on jerky kid. Not the “stranger” kind either, I mean the one you carried inside your once flat tummy and pushed all day long to bring into this janked up world. Those people. They are the ones (two or three or however many times you thought producing arrows of righteousness would bless you) who can really rip out your heart and stomp on it like NO ONE ELSE IN THIS WHOLE WIDE WORLD.

And then ask you for something right after the sucker punch to your heart.

Kids are ruthless. They can also be pretty selfish. Who can we blame though? We play a pretty significant role in how self-centered our kids grow up to be. I know I can only blame myself for many of my own kids “issues”.

I was chatting with a friend today who was feeling all the hurts that come with dealing with grown up kids. That’s not to say that all grown up kids are being rotten or uncaring…. Sometimes, that relationship becomes all wonky and the results can be rather uncomfortable for both parties. I’ve experienced my own share of growing pains with my big kids. It can hurt in so many ways just trying to navigate normal everyday life.

Heck, I’ve cried over some stupid things.

I tried to encourage my friend because what I’ve learned is that these feelings are normal. It’s all part of God’s bigger plan. Kids grow up, they marry and move on. Our lives don’t end because of that. Matter of fact, it’s just getting started. All the years of investing in the great people they are were not a waste.

We can celebrate knowing that we played a part in who they are today.

Now, how they treat us is their business. It’s on them. If they are snarky or jerky – find a way to overlook it. Also, be prepared to do a heart check of your own. Are you holding on too tightly? Are you stifling them? Do you invade every aspect of their lives and hold every fun thing they do without you over their heads? Stop it. Learn to let go (ha, easy for me to say..huh?) and give them the space they need to soar.

Kids are not our property. They are on loan from God. A heritage. Oh who am I kidding? They are our everything and then POOF! They are gone. Deal with it!

Mama’s, in the words of 38 Special –> Hold on loosely! But, don’t let go! If you cling too tightly, you’re gonna lose control! Your baby needs someone to believe in….and a whole lotta space to breathe in!

Adult children have a completely different need from us as parents. They need our support but they need us to butt out. They need our love but they need us to not focus completely on them. They need us to be happy without their presence. They need us to let them fail and fall flat but they also need us to help them up (IF THEY ASK). They need us to NOT BE SO DANGED SENSITIVE but they also need to show respect and thoughtfulness. They need to know that no matter what they do or say, we love them and care for them but they also need to be considerate of our feelings.

Look, parenting never ends. It just changes. For some, it gets easier. For others, it takes on a strained or forced battle ground. Don’t let it wreck you. Don’t stop living because your kids have grown up and moved on. Start all the things you couldn’t do when you were knee deep in mac-n-cheese and tying shoes. Get out there and find your happy place.

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And for goodness sakes, make your husband your #1! Hubby’s take the backseat too often while we’re mommying it up. Love your guy, smile at the face that still swoons over you and let your rotten kids go! πŸ™‚

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Yo Yo-ga Girl

August 7th, 2015

I admit it, I’m a real snob. Not the high fallutin’ rich girl kind but the holier than thou clothing choice kind.

I can’t help it.

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Ladies, why are you wearing work-out stuff as your “clothes”? (I know, I’ve blogged about this before)

Your message …. is what? You are a work-out machine? You are always just coming from a great Yoga class? You’re a fit fanatic? You can’t afford jeans or cute shorts? You love showing off that booty and more?

What? What is it?

Yesterday, I was at a meeting for subs at my school board office. The group was full of guest teachers, many were dressed like they were there for work (what I would consider appropriate) and then there were the ever faithful constant “exercisers”.

Why?

Is it so hard to dress like this —>

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or this —>

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Really? I’m sure the work-out gear is comfy. I would even bet that you spent actual money to buy what you’re wearing with actual dollhairs. But why? Why use them as your clothes?

Put those yoga pants and work-out bra/t-back tank tops away! For heavens sakes!

Dress appropriately for the events in your life that take just a tiny bit of effort. People, whether you believe it or not are judging you for the way you represent yourself. Do you want to be taken seriously? Or do you want to be thought of as the chick coming from spin class?

It’s not expensive (I know how much work-out gear costs) to wear an outfit that isn’t exercise friendly.

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I have good news for you gals addicted to your yoga pants. You can kick it up a notch with DRESS YOGA PANTS!!!

They are a real thing. LOOK!

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So, if you just can’t tear yourself from the comfy feel of your yoga’s….here ya go. Dress it up! Be proud. These might make me eat my yoga pants words. πŸ˜‰

In good humor but with some pretty solid fashion advice, this chart holds the answers that each of us could use when picking out an “outfit” for the world to see us in.

You are welcome.

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Happy Friday!!! Last weekend of my summer has arrived. I plan to live. it. up.

Haha!

Pull Me

August 4th, 2015

Sister

First best friend

Keeper of secrets

No. 1 encourager

Dance partner when the song is good

Gene pool sympathizer

Partner in crime

Secret language speaker

Flaw hider

Teacher of humility

Heart string connector

Shenanigan instigator

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I always wanted a sister.