Company’s Coming….

January 5th, 2016

You do things your way, we do them ours. Like, when guests are scheduled to arrive for a fun New Year’s weekend visit. We rip the whole upstairs apart.

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What? You don’t wreck your house into a mess so big it’ll take days to put back together? Bless.

To be real, I could’ve titled this post –> The Weekend I Wanted to Kill My Husband. Except….I’ve had a few of those weekends in 26 years.

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The mess. Oh sweet balls of fire! The mess. It didn’t get completed as he promised before they arrived on Thursday afternoon late. Most of the floor was down but a few very difficult pieces kept the party from really taking off. What I mean is…there were tools, machines, garbage piles and chaos still laying everywhere while my friends (our friends) hauled their suitcases upstairs.

You may not know, I’m HIGH STRUNG. At the highest rung, strung!

I tried to be patient. I tried to be forgiving. But the reality is that I wanted to flip out and kick a sucker right in the throat! Yea, I’m nice like that.

Our visit was really strained because this albatross of a home improvement flashed like a neon sign every time I would reach the top of the staircase. It was a mess. Did I mention that yet?

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But then like the parting of the clouds on a rainy day….our friends left for their long drive back to Alabama and the floors were complete. All the furniture was pulled out and put back in place. Every little scrap of garbage swept and even all the tools were taken back down to the garage (the garage that I can’t park in yet because….the floor job).

It was all like a dream.

So, let me tell you how much I love my new floor upstairs. I LOVE IT! I mean, I’ve only been asking for it since we finished the downstairs floors nearly 2 years ago. I’m ecstatic! However, I don’t recommend doing it when you have long-time friends coming to visit.

It could jeopardize all your NEW YEARS EVE fun or whatever crazy adventure you have planned. Trust me. I know things.

It’s the Right Word for Me

January 4th, 2016

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I did just what I do every year when it comes to making some big deal decisions…like, picking my WORD of the year. I forgot about it. I just walked on ahead and lived my life. I planned to fret over it, I even confessed I’d been dragging my feet. Picking a WORD to wrap your life around and take to the bank IS HARD WORK!

I’m happy to announce I have made a decision. A decision to pick one word but throw in another just for good measure. Who says one word can’t come in two’s when I need it? I’m not above being complicated, people.

My WORD(s)?

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See how they sort of just go together?

Let’s begin with MOVE. I’ve squashed down some big dreams for too long. I bring them up, write about them and then run as fast as I can away from them. This year, I refuse to do that! No more hiding behind my fears and insecurities. All I’m doing is wearing out my wish list and denying myself any opportunities to fail or soar.

I WILL MOVE – WHEN I COME UP WITH A GREAT IDEA FOR A BOOK AND WRITE CRAP DOWN!

I WILL MOVE – WHEN I LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND CRINGE AT THAT EXTRA CHUB THAT MAKES ME FEEL MISERABLE!

I WILL MOVE – WHEN I SEE A NEED THAT I KNOW I CAN MEET!

I WILL MOVE – WHEN I GET THE URGE TO BE BRAVE AND TRY SOMETHING NEW!

I WILL MOVE – WHEN I FIND MYSELF PARALYZED WITH FEAR BUT STILL WISHING FOR COURAGE!

I WILL MOVE – WHEN I WANT TO GO TO BED AND FEEL SORRY FOR MYSELF!

I WILL MOVE – BECAUSE, IF I DON’T MOVE…..I’M GOING TO REGRET WASTING ANOTHER YEAR NOT DOING MY BEST TO MAKE MY DREAMS COME TRUE!

Now, MORE. How much explaining do I really need to do here? MORE just makes sense. I want to do MORE.

I WANT TO DO MORE – BECAUSE, THAT’S WHAT I NEED!

I WANT TO DO MORE – BECAUSE, I CAN!

I WANT TO DO MORE – BECAUSE, DOING MORE MAKES ME STRONGER, PROUDER AND HAPPIER!

I WANT TO DO MORE – BECAUSE, MOVE & MORE GO SO WELL TOGETHER!

I WANT TO DO MORE – BECAUSE, LIFE HAS SO MUCH TO OFFER ME IF I’LL JUST GIVE IT A SHOT!

I WANT TO DO MORE – BECAUSE, MORE OF MOST THINGS IS USUALLY PRETTY AWESOME … MORE ICECREAM, MORE VACATIONS, MORE SHOES, MORE COFFEE, MORE FUN!

I WANT TO DO MORE – BECAUSE, GOD IS SHOWING ME MY LIFE IS WORTH SO MUCH MORE!

I know it sounds crazy. That’s the thing with reading other people’s WORD of the year. It might not make sense to you but to them…it’s just perfect! I have big plans to chase my WORD all over 2016. I don’t know where it will lead me but I know sitting around wishing and hoping doesn’t fit my goals any longer. I need the motivation to go after my dreams and I can’t do that attaching my heart to any other WORD(s) than MOVE MORE!

I declare 2016 MY YEAR! I don’t know what’s going to happen but I dedicate it to God and offer Him my best efforts to work in and through me to complete His perfect plan!

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Don’t stay stuck friends. Try something new. Do what makes your heart happy. Be brave. Give something away that costs ya. Share your dreams. Kiss more. Hug longer. Love one another. Trust Christ. Pray harder. Be in love with you.

Only 2 Days Left

December 30th, 2015

2015 is on it’s way out. Only 2 more days to get all the things you wished to do this year, accomplished. If you’re like me, that probably isn’t happening. If it didn’t get done, it’s officially too late.

New goals. New year. New hopes.

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I’ve been thinking about my new word for 2016. Obviously, not enough because I still have no idea what to hook my wagon up to in the coming year. I really stretched myself with last year’s word, TRUST. I’m a natural-born worrier – so – choosing to cling to TRUST was a challenge. I like to wring my hands, okay? Somehow, I managed to get out of the year unscathed by my own personal challenge. Probably because I did a lot of my life EASY.

I didn’t do anything crazy. I stayed within my own limits (lame, huh?). I hid behind any big obstacles. I didn’t live my life with much abandon. I didn’t step out in fear and trembling. I managed to box myself in and block myself from any hurt or challenging experiences.

I wimped out, y’all. Totally took the easy way out in every little instance.

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Maybe that’s all I could handle. I don’t know. I believe all of us are weaker than we think, sometimes.

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I can’t help but think I took on more than I KNOW I could really handle by picking TRUST. Perhaps, because I don’t really know HOW TO TRUST. (Not a challenge, Lord….)

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In true God fashion, He protected me from really having to use my TRUST-o-meter.

I’m thankful He knows me. I’m not embarrassed to admit that I’m a wimp. I hate discord, I loathe trouble and I dream of total contentment. Who has that anyway?

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It’s not really fair for me to pretend as though I didn’t experience anything that required TRUST. There were many times that I had to hand over all my struggles and begin again. For those times, I am grateful I had the love and mercy of God. Without Him, I couldn’t cope. Still, He proved that He was in control and that He would work out any problem I faced.

So, there. I trusted.

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I suppose I’m really trying to tell you that picking a word doesn’t mean you won’t experience it in a profound way. Every person has a journey uniquely designed for them. My year was perfectly arranged just for me, just like yours. What’s to come? Only God knows.

Are you preparing yourself? Are you looking ahead? Searching for your place in this great big world? I am.

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Happy end of 2015, friends.

Don’t Be That Guy

December 23rd, 2015

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While every other fine human is out doing their good deeds for mankind; collecting food & toys for the less fortunate, feeding the hungry, tipping $$$ at pizza joints….playing secret Santa – I’m over here all wrapped up in my own selfish desires!

I JUST WANT EVERYONE TO GET ALONG AND BE NICE!

Yea, it’s Christmas time and I’m completely absorbed with my own happiness. Maybe you are too. I mean, really. Holidays come jam-packed with expectations. Everyone has an agenda. Some want prezzies. Some want fun family time. Some JUST WANT TO BE A JERK!

If that’s you, boo..dude!

I can only speak for myself. I look forward to the time I have with my family at holidays. I anticipate it more than anything. I had no idea how much I would treasure the time spent with my kids. But, together doesn’t always equal happy. Sometimes, people are grouchy. Or mad. Or just not on their best game.

Last year, I was in the middle of an all out attack from satan. My beautiful house was destroyed on Christmas eve by a burst water pipe. It was a moment frozen in my brain FOREVER! Never underestimate the power of a flooded foyer, living room and guest bath. It will bring out YOUR WORST! I full-on acted like a jerk!

I think I deserved to go a little crazy.

Maybe you understand….

Let me assure you (whomever you are)…YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE TO HAVE CRAZY EMOTIONS! If you’re dreading time with your family because of all the ups & downs that come with every single personality – YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Each of us have the capacity to engage our 15 minutes of fame crazy. Don’t let it be you!

Here’s my tips to survive it:

1. BE JOYFILLED

When the people around you decide to kill your vibe, smile and encourage them with a positive.

2. BE PATIENT

When, not IF your biggest button gets pushed, step on the gas of your back-up attitude. Remember, it’s only for a short time. It’s not like you’re all moving in together. πŸ™‚

3. BE FORGIVING

Someone is going to tick you off, hurt your feelings, get on your last nerve and probably act like a total jerk to you. So, go ahead and decide to forgive them. No, they don’t deserve it…but neither do you or me! Just do it.

4. BE THANKFUL

Your life (if it’s anything like mine) is wonderful. You have so much to be thankful for. Remembering that and living that way opens your heart and attitude up to a whole lot of joy. You won’t be able to contain it, I promise.

It’s the season to show love, feel love and be love. When life or circumstances come at you full-throttle, BE PREPARED!!

My Mistake

December 21st, 2015

I don’t know what kind of mistakes you’ve made in your life but I do know you’ve made some. You, me, her….him, them, everybody. Mistakes are how we learn and grow. Some mistakes are big giant in-your-face goofs like last night’s Miss Universe pageant. Poor Steve Harvey! He really messed up.

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Not all mistakes are plastered up on billboards for the world to see. I don’t think it’s fair to say which is worse either. I know a lot of regretful people living with some secret mistakes that hurt just as deeply as the person whose error the whole world can see. One misstep can change the course of a person’s life forever.

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I’m here to tell you that making a mistake is human nature. You’re never going to get out of this world without making at least a few. But, you don’t have to grovel in a world of loserdom (I made that up). Don’t stay boxed in by your choices. Set your heart and mind to doing things the right way.

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My gut tells me that your mistakes are no worse than mine or anyone else’s. So, wherever you are today….just remember, your mistakes don’t define you. What you do with your mistakes does.

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Now, put down that Christmas crack and eat a salad! πŸ™‚
Just kidding. Do what you want. It’s Christmas!

Fearful Days

December 17th, 2015

I don’t know about you….but, I’m absolutely convinced our world is more dangerous today than its ever been. In the land of the free, a trip to the movies or even to school can be deadly. There isn’t any place that’s safe. Criminals are on the prowl and they’re looking for victims.

Yesterday, I was out shopping along with a million other Hoosiers when I noticed two guys coming towards me in Nordstrom Rack. I wouldn’t have thought much of it except that I was in the women’s section surrounded by racks and racks of womens clothing (there wasn’t anything they needed there) and they were looking back and forth at one another and then at me. Purposefully at me, with an intended forceful approach. They seemed to be rushing at me all while trying to surround me at the same time. I picked up on their aggression and immediately pushed my cart away from them and moved into the middle of a crowd of people. They knew – that I knew… they were up to something.

I refuse to be a victim.

Just this week in my area (and these are just a few cases) –> 2 college lock-downs due to armed robberies….a neighborhood store robbed at gunpoint, a mother was killed in her home while her 2 kids were asleep, a third man was arrested for his part in the recent home invasion murder (not too far from my house), a man was shot and killed pumping gas, a CVS drugstore was robbed, a lady noticed her cable installer with what looked like one of her husband’s gun cases and called the police. He was arrested on the scene (at her house) with 2 more of her guns in his van. He was there to do a job, like many of us have repairmen and helpers in our home every day.

No place, no circumstance is free from criminal activity.

I’m no dummy, criminals are looking for victims. They prey on society and look for anyone not paying attention or seemingly weak. All around us, bad guys are creeping up and down our streets and public places. They want your stuff, your money and they DO NOT care if you live or die in order for them to get it from you.

When I see a GUN FREE ZONE sign on a business, I cringe. Who in their right mind believes that applies to everyone? Really? Okay. You shop there then.

I’m sick of feeling afraid. I don’t like shopping in a mall or store where I have to constantly look over my shoulder. If you think it only happens in big cities, you are very wrong. It’s becoming a normal part of society and I don’t understand the fascination with assaulting and or robbing innocent people.

The excuse for drugs isn’t good enough. The excuse for needing money for the holidays is ridiculous (be poor like the rest of us, would ya?). There are no good excuses for committing crimes in order to pad your own pockets. None.

What can we do to protect ourselves and stop crime before it happens?

1. Don’t go where you know it isn’t safe – Seriously, don’t visit shady parts of town. Stay away from known crime riddled areas. Don’t go out alone or jogging in secluded spots at questionable hours. Make good decisions. It could mean your life.

2. Apply for a gun permit (if you are a gun person, that is) – Don’t just apply, but train and carry it ALL THE TIME. Have your weapon of defense available to you wherever you are, even at home. Don’t be afraid to use it.

3. People watch – Look people in the eye. Don’t shy away. If you do, you are exactly who criminals are looking for. Like my two jerks at Nordy’s, I looked directly into both of their eyes (spoke clearly) that I wasn’t who they wanted to accost.

4. Lock your doors – I’m really guilty of this. Check your doors, even if you live in a great area (like me). The recent murder of Amanda Blackwell reminds us all that even leaving your door unlocked for a quick run to the gym can be fatal.

5. Call police – Don’t hesitate to report what appears to be suspicious behavior. We’re not living in la-la land. This is the real world with real criminals out there. Be safe not sorry.

6. Trust your gut – If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Get to a safe spot, find a store manager or other person to talk to when you’re in a weird position. Never ignore a God-given natural instinct.

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God isn’t surprised by this upturn of violent and wicked behavior. His word clearly points out how crazy the world will become as we near His return. Don’t let the meltdown of society steal your comfort and peace. Be ready to protect yourself and your family. Fear can be a tool to keep you alive.