Posts Tagged ‘Jesus’

Be Picky

Wednesday, August 2nd, 2017

Maybe you need to hear this today. You don’t have to have everything your way. You can bend and give when it feels a little uncomfortable without ditching all your own great qualities. You can be a great friend without ever losing the real you!

Be picky.

Don’t sell your own soul for a relationship with someone who doesn’t love like you do. Better than that, if you love THE LORD JESUS CHRIST….do not allow someone who doesn’t infiltrate your heart and all that you believe as Truth. You do not have to conform to anyone but God. (Romans 12)

Relationships can either break us or make us. Learn which is which in your life.

Learn how to walk away!

What’s Important?

Wednesday, May 3rd, 2017

let it be love

The older I get the more I come face to face with who I am and what my purpose has been while living on this earth. I’ve been here 50 something years which means I’ve had plenty of time to get some important things accomplished. However, every day it seems as though I’m bombarded by voices telling me that I’ve fallen short and that I’ve wrecked some of the most important assignments God has given me.

As a follower of Christ, I really really really want to be faithful to what God has for me. I don’t want to waste time (yet, I have wasted so much selfishly) nor do I want to be superficial to anyone needing to see Christ in me. For years, I’ve thought foolishly that by being real to people (my friends & family) I was portraying a truthful look at what walking the Christian faith means. Fall down, get back up. Live forgiven. Do better.

I don’t know what God is doing in my life these days. My life feels like it’s on a perpetual high-speed wooden roller-coaster and I cannot get off when it screeches into the station for more passengers. Just more crazy thrill-seeking people hop on and I’m still strapped in for ONE MORE WILD SCREAMING RIDE! Like I can handle it.

I’m not really handling it well. I go up with my emotions and then crash down like a violent wreck that no one walks away from. Maybe that sounds a bit dramatic (remember, it’s my life not yours – don’t judge). In spite of the very real and frustrating reality of my husband’s unemployment for the last 8+ months (September 9th 2016, not that I’m counting!!!) I’ve got bigger issues that are nagging me and pulling me towards sadness.

I’m at a real turning point in my life. It’s a “here on out” kind of time and what I do from now on is just as important as what I was doing when I was tucking kids in at night and making chocolate chip pancakes for breakfast. Only this time, I have a lot more freedom. No one is relying on me for guidance or protection or personal care. Matter of fact, they don’t even want me to offer a suggestion or opinion.

After a lifetime of parenting….they reach a point of NOT EVER LISTENING TO YOU AGAIN. That’s cool. I get it.

I’m faced with the question, what’s important?

Not all the things that I placed value on truly mattered. Some did, but not all. I mean, who cares about tons of home-cooked meals? Or spiffy, yummy smelling clean clothes? Those are just perks. Not true necessities. Kids who ate drive-thru meals and repeat wore so-so clothing are fine people and function perfectly well in society. Right?

I had a thought bubble pop up last night while I was loading the dishwasher – I wasn’t always very nice to my kids. As soon as the thought hit me, I felt a stab of regret. I was mean. Not all the time but enough that it hurts me to reflect on it. Maybe all moms are jerks at some point or another. I honestly don’t know how anyone purposefully hurts their kids (I did not do that…. but there were times I wasn’t as loving or kind as my kids probably needed me to be). I’m sorry for it.

Still, what’s important from me as a mom? To be nice? To be fair? To make homemade mac-n-cheese? To show love? To give of my time and energy? To let them make their own choices? To pick who they want to be or where they want to go? To butt out? To zip my lip and not point out weaknesses or celebrate strengths?

I’m here to tell you, all of that is important. Afterall, I am standing on the other side now and looking back….I can see clearly what worked and what didn’t. Instead of relishing all the things I did wrong – I think it’s important to focus on what I did right. I can’t help what anyone else does with their life (even my own kids) but I can tell you that if you don’t try your best to make an impact on the people in your life — God will hold both you and me accountable for it.

I chose to parent my kids under the headship of Jesus Christ and I would do it again. If my kids have children, I will continue to teach the love and forgiveness of Jesus to my grandchildren. It’s in me and it will always be until the day I die. I’m a Christian (a sinner saved by grace) and I will not waste my time or His while I’m here on earth being silent about my faith. If I’ve learned anything in 50 years it’s that life is fleeting and there are no guarantees of a tomorrow. Being nice and not offending someone with the gospel of Jesus Christ is dangerous. While I don’t want to live with earthly regret…. knowing I’ve shied away from sharing Christ with someone who dies and goes to hell is a consequence beyond regret.

It’s important to do the good work of Jesus as a parent, friend & stranger. This world doesn’t just need “nice” people it needs the faithful who care about the eternal destination of those around them.

What’s important to you?

stand firm

Straight to the Temple

Monday, April 14th, 2014

jesus week

And Jesus…drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seats of those who sold pigeons….Matthew 21:12

I will never figure out a love like Christ's.  Even on my best days, I cannot imagine loving anyone like He does or giving so sacrificially.  His life was pure and blameless and He knew mine would never be and still He died for me.

As I ponder this very Holy Week in my heart, I think about the first thing Jesus did when he entered Jerusalem.  He went straight to the Temple, the place of worship.  He couldn't leave it like it was in its current (at that time) condition.  I think it's indicative of what He does upon entering a person's life.  He goes straight to the heart (the place of worship) because He can't leave us like we are in our lostness.  He wants to cleanse us of everything that doesn't belong there or doesn't align with God.

So, that scene we've all read and heard stories about where Jesus goes into the temple flipping tables and blowing His cool …. that's the perfect MIND PICTURE for each of us to hold onto when we think about what our sin and foolishness means to God.  He despises it!  He wants it out of our lives.

Today, as we count down the days to Jesus' death and Resurrection….I pray that each of us would see clearly what needs to go in our lives.  What is it that we must clean out?  What is blocking me (and you) from living a life that is completely connected to Christ? 


Sanctify us, cleanse our hearts and lives of whatever it is that blocks us from you.  


Foot Of The Cross

Sunday, October 17th, 2010

Today, we drove over to Bloomington to visit our sweetboy and attend church with him. It was great! He’s involved in a college church plant called Foot Of The Cross. {Thank you Indiana Southern Baptists for such a ministry} He plays in the worship band and helps set up early on Sunday mornings. Pretty cool, huh? I mean, hello? He’s a 20 year old college dude……sleeping in on a Sunday morning sounds more like what he would rather do. But, not him. He really likes his church and the people who lead it. So, 6:30am is his wake-up & get rolling call.

I’m so glad we went. The worship was genuine and the preaching solid. It felt comfortable and challenging at the same time. I loved the way Pastor Mat taught about the power of the Holy Spirit and spoke bravely about living to testify. Great words for an old Christian like me and for the new.

It was a great day! Thank you FOTC folks for making us feel so welcomed and for loving on our boy. As a parent who’s had to let that first chick out of the nest… feels amazing to know there are wonderful followers of Jesus reaching out and ministering to him.

Dear Lord
I lift up this church and its ministry to you. May they continue to grow and bless those you’ve placed in their path. I can see your hand all over what they’re doing. Thank you for the many who love you and share you every week at FOTC. I’m extra thankful for what they’re doing to minister to my son. What a blessing!

Gates & Gavin sipping complimentary Starbucks at Barnes & Nobles


Thursday, December 17th, 2009

I have to share this.  It’s a post that just made my heart jump!  I know what it’s like to be blessed by a gift….and I know what it’s like to bless with a gift!  This sweet story will surely remind you…..God wants to use you and me to do things we can never imagine!  Are you listening?


Tiger….not always a winner!

Tuesday, December 8th, 2009


I have listened to the news….and seen his famous face plastered all over tv. His dirty laundry (and I’d say it’s pretty nasty) aired and shared for all the world to see. It’s heartbreaking! It’s devastating! Why would he do it? That is the question most of the world is asking. He seems to have it all, right?

Or does he?

For those of us who love and follow Jesus…..we see this lack of moral compass with hearts that hurt when someone falls short. It happens. People fail. They mess up! But for anyone in a committed marriage relationship…this can destroy! The Bible is clear regarding keeping the marriage bed pure! This one act can change the dynamics of a happy home in an instant.

It sickens me anytime I hear of it. Infidelity ruins lives. Satan pounces on every opportunity he can to wreck intact families. Tiger’s no exception. If he’s not a Christ follower…..he’s also not properly prepared for the battle. We all know that we must be fully armed for whatever attack comes our way. And they will come our way!

My prayer for Tiger Woods and his wife….is that someone will minister to them. Being wealthy beyond imagination cannot save a marriage and neither can fame. But meeting a Savior…..and finding the forgiveness that true repentance can bring can do more than just save a marriage. It can change eternity!

Tiger doesn’t need more judgement or scrutiny….he needs Jesus! He may win golf tournaments that pay him by the billions…..but his future is bleak if it doesn’t include God!

Great things come out of the most shameful and painful of circumstances. Let this be one of those times. Open the heart of Tiger and his wife…..surround them with your Holy Spirit and make the changes that they need. Pruning can be very painful….but you’re the master gardener! Snip away what doesn’t fit and make it just right.